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My First Official Parenting Post
I must say, I still feel pretty new to this whole parenting thing although its been 3 years already but I still feel like it was just yesterday when my boy was out and I was so new to this whole parenting thing. But I can really tell you that whatever you expect when you want to have a kid, throw that out of the window and just focus on that new little baby in front of you. There is no right or wrong in parenting and it is very different for different people especially when you come from a very different background. Trust your gut and mother’s instinct as they are rarely wrong.
When they are infants, we worry about their sleep and how they are eating, are they drinking enough milk, are they too warm or are they too cold. Then when they are about 6 months we start the exciting journey of preparing food and hoping they would just eat anything you cook. At about a year old they start to walk and you start to baby proof the whole house and wish that they wouldn’t walk so quickly. And then slowly they start to run and talk back to you, get dressed by themselves and feed themselves. Parenting is something that even the best books would not be able to teach you.
I remember having an expectation of my boy before he was born being super independent, buying him a cot to put in his room thinking that he was going to be born and just sleep by himself in the room, we even bought those baby monitors. NEVER HAPPENED! The moment he was born I was stuck with a Koala bear for the next maybe 3 years! I literally could not put him down. I couldn’t do anything, couldn’t go to the toilet, couldn’t bathe myself, couldn’t even get something to drink without him bursting into tears. Sooo we got a cot just beside me but that did not work too. He just loved to sleep on my chest, on my hands. I remember looking at all sorts of articles as I was desperately googling for information on how to make my baby sleep by himself and is it normal for him to stick to me like super glue. I read about sleep training and crying to sleep but it just did not sit well with me. I have a few friends who did it successful and told me it was a blessing because now they can sleep by themselves. I remember feeling super torn up whether I was making a right decision.
And if you are facing this as well, I can tell you, from experience. TOTALLY NORMAL! My boy is 3 this year and although he still sleeps on my bed, he sleeps by himself now and I get the time to do whatever I want, blogging in this instance, while he sleeps.
Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had a dealing with fears you didn’t know existed
Linda Wooten
As he moves from the toddler age to the kiddo age, there would be more and more challenges for us as we face different issues as well. But I am just glad that I am learning as I go along on this journey. When you understand that there is no right or wrong in parenting, that you might be judged for your actions by your parents or in laws or maybe sometimes even your friends, do whatever your gut tells you to do. Do whatever feels right and is justified by yourself. It is the same as trying to find your goal in life, your close friends and family might not like your decision and the more you ask the more advise you get and the more confused you get. Do what feels right to you!
It is not what you do for your children but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings
Ann Landers
For now, I am trying to apply this quote to my boy and guide him to become as successful as he would like to be. And remember when I told you that I wanted him to be independent to sleep on his own, he IS as independent now as he can get. He chooses his own clothes to wear, has his own set of opinions, has been eating independently by himself since 10 months. Time babes, time! Just hold on to the moments now, hug the little koala bear because soon they are going to grow big.
As I finish up my first parenting blog post, there would be more tips that I would share and more details that I would be sharing on parenting, but I would just like to remind you as a parent that it is never easy especially when you have a more difficult baby, but hang in there, do some self care, read other people’s blog post or comments on forums, throw the kid to your parents and take a couple of hours off. Do anything that makes you feel better but at the end of the day know that it is not your kid that is trying to give you a hard time, because they are having a hard time. (imagine being only 10 days old, only 10 days on planet earth, not knowing anything or anyone who wouldn’t be scared?)
If you do need some motivation, do check out my list of 25 of my most uplifting podcast I listen to on a daily basis. Or if you need to reflect on my skincare tips you can also check out this post: “10 of the biggest skincare mistakes made by busy moms.” or check out my latest posts below and do stay tune for more tips and posts to help busy moms like you and me!
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